forgive her) so that she can stop feeling bad. She's remorseful, yes, because she's afraid that her world will change and seeing you hurt makes her feel bad so she wants you to get rid of your hurt (i.e.
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So I'm sorry but I don't think your wife is really taking full responsibility. If she was taking full responsibility she'd be seeking 'self-punishment' and not contest if you wanted to leave her then and there. If she is truly taking full responsibility as she claims, then she would be willingly accepting the consequences of her actions by giving you full 'permission' to divorce her and not be begging you for forgiveness and asking you to put forth the near-superhuman effort to stay married to her so that her world doesn't have to change. you could forgive her more if she confessed on her own than if she lied and you found out) It may lessen it to some degree but that doesn't equate canceling it out completely (e.g.
But one right doesn't cancel out another wrong either. Her confession was for her own benefit, not yours.
She likely confessed to you to make herself feel better because she felt guilty and knew that keeping secrets would destroy her. Just because your wife could have committed a second wrongdoing of lying but didn't, doesn't exactly count as a badge of honor and a reason to stay married to her. Reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2011): But I don't know how I can move forward and get that picture of her sucking and screwing another guy out of my head.Īcne, blow-job, drunk, oral sex, orgasm, textįancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! That her continuing on to give him a blowjob and sex, showed consent, when that was only because he got her hormones going, without permission. She also thinks she should charge the man with rape, but at the same time feels as if she didn't do enough to resist. She is not a party girl, as she maybe gets out of the house 2-3x per year, so it's not like she puts herself in these bad spots consistently. She knows that what she did was wrong and begs for my forgiveness. She immediately told me everything that she remembers, and blames nothing but herself for what happened. She said she is completely remorseful and accepts all blame for what happened. She felt obliged to reciporcate and gave him a blowjob and followed it up with sex. She said she resisted, but her attempts weren't that strong given she was in a state of confusion.Īfter a while inexplainably, even though it's not what she wanted, her body gave in and she had an orgasm. She doesn't remember him coming in, but she remembers waking up to him giving her oral sex. She said she slept in a guest bedroom at the house the party was hosted at and that sometime in the middle of the night, she has no clue as she is still drunk, the man who owns the house slipped into the room. She texted me that she was staying the night, which I was fine with. She felt too drunk to drive and didn't want to wake me and our child up to come get her.
I trust my wife, and I truly believe her when she told me it was a mistake. Tagged as: Cheating, Marriage problems, SexĢ5 Answers - ( Newest, 16 September 2011) Wife got drunk and molested in her sleep at a party. Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!